Support for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse


The province of Ontario has recognized the need to provide services tailored to male survivors of sexual abuse. The government’s plan includes a 2-year investment of $2.2 million to establish dedicated services for male survivors of sexual abuse.

Starting in early summer 2011, male survivors of sexual abuse will have access to an integrated network of services and support through 45 agencies across the province. The agencies will work together to provide training, public education and other professional development services to ensure male survivors of sexual abuse receive the supports they need.

These agencies will co-ordinate the delivery of specialized services for male victims including:

  • individual and group counselling
  • peer support
  • residential services
  • telephone and e-counselling

You may see the complete list of Service Providers here: http://www.attorneygeneral.jus.gov.on.ca/english/news/2011/20110413-male-bg.asp

Survivors will also have access to a new 24 hour, toll-free phone number that will provide crisis and referral services.

The government emphasized that this initiative complements a wide range of existing services that male survivors of sexual abuse can access, noting that The Men’s Project in Ottawa will receive funding to continue to work in the area of men’s services to male survivors of sexual abuse in the Cornwall and Ottawa areas.

A provincial advisory committee of experts is in place to ensure services across the province are rolled out smoothly and effectively, and are responsive to the needs of survivors. Members of the provincial advisory committee include:

  • Dr. Fred Mathews, psychologist and research and quality assurance project lead, Office of the Provincial Advocate for Children and Youth
  • Arthur Lockhart, professor of justice studies at Humber College and founder of The Gatehouse
  • Dr. Peter Jaffe, professor in the Faculty of Education at the University of Western Ontario
  • A representative from Findhelp Information Services and a representative from each of the four regional partnerships
  • A member of the Office for Victims of Crime
  • A representative from the Ontario Victim Services Secretariat

If you have questions or concerns about these services for male survivors of sexual abuse, you may contact the office of the Ontario Attorney General

Toll-free: 1-800-518-7901
Toronto: 416-326-2220
Teletypewriter (TTY) toll-free: 1-877-425-0575
Teletypewriter (TTY) Toronto: 416-326-4012
Email: attorneygeneral@ontario.ca
Mail: Ministry of the Attorney General, McMurtry-Scott Building, 720 Bay Street, 11th Floor, Toronto, ON  M7A 2S9

 

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Always remember that you may have been victimized by sexual violence, but by searching for help you have started your healing.

Survivors Guide

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The Agonizing Last Words of Programmer Bill Zeller


I have read this letter and I understand it in a way that chills me to the marrow of my bones.

Bill Zeller

Bill Zeller’s last wish was to have his final words shared with as many people as possible, and as survivors of sexual abuse, we believe this wish must be fulfilled.

People everywhere need to understand the extent to which sexual abuse harms an individual. They need to understand how the lack of societal recognition about the heinous nature of this crime causes survivors to retreat from society and human contact in a way that makes the victim appear to be the source of dysfunction. They need to understand how the fear of lack of support from family, friends, and trained professionals in the aftermath of disclosure drives survivors away and buries them in inescapable darkness. People need to understand that survivors of sexual abuse live with the effects throughout every minute of every day of their lives and there is no miracle or epiphany that will make what happened instantly “go away”.

Bill Zeller did what survivors of sexual abuse do every day: keep a secret.

We hope that sharing this secret in the wake of his death will create a powerful ripple of awareness in the world about the darkness that can exist for survivors of sexual abuse.

Read the letter: The Agonizing Last Words of Programmer Bill Zeller

Always remember that you may have been victimized by sexual violence, but by searching for help you have started your healing.

Survivors Guide

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An Open Letter to Amazon.com


Dear Amazon.com,

You have lost customers…permanently.

When it was brought to light yesterday that you were selling “The Pedophile’s Guide to Love and Pleasure: A Child-Lover’s Code of Conduct”, through your site we were stunned. It is incredulous that no one on your staff thought that this listing would be offensive, not to mention that what this “instruction manual” is teaching is criminal.

You defended the sale of this book in a statement that read, “Amazon believes it is censorship not to sell certain books simply because we or others believe their message is objectionable. Amazon does not support or promote hatred or criminal acts, however, we do support the right of every individual to make their own purchasing decisions.”

This is not a free speech issue and this book is promoting criminal acts.

As survivors of sexual abuse, we find it abhorrent that the author was able to use your services to disseminate material about how to avoid detection while committing crimes against children. Pedophilia is not a “love” of children as the author states, but an exercise of power over the most vulnerable individuals within our society. In his description of the book, the author states, “penetration is out. You can’t do that with a child, but kissing and fondling I don’t think is that big of a problem”. He is wrong. Any sexual acts between an adult and a child are a problem, and survivors of sexual abuse are living proof that the harm is immeasurable.

You removed the book from your listings, but not before it hit your Top 100 Bestsellers list. Unfortunately, you cannot remove from our memories your unwillingness to do what was necessary to protect children everywhere. For that, we bid you good-bye.

Always remember that you may have been victimized by sexual violence, but by searching for help you have started your healing.

Survivors Guide

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